I know what I have to say will be unpopular, because most people these days think it’s crazy to practice abstinence from sex until marriage. Quite a shift, that’s for sure, from the days of “Scarlett Letter”, isn’t it? haha Because suddenly I feel this slight, implied persecution because I’m 22 years old, a virgin, and am absolutely going to stay that way until I’m married.
It’s “old fashioned” - some would even go as far as calling me a prude. And in today’s culture, even amongst Christians, pre-marital sex is suddenly not so big of a deal anymore. There’s a difference between having sex before you’re married and just being plain promiscuous after all, right? And is it really that big of a deal - sex in a monogamous relationship? It’s not murder, it’s not even lying - it’s just sex. If you’re doing everything else right and not hurting anyone else, then what’s the big deal?
Well, I just know for me, I love Jesus more than anything. And I’m far from perfect, but as far as I can help it, I am out to follow Him 100% in everything. Because He loves me so much, He saved me - I have no problem dedicating my life to Him and following His commandments in return. And I know that sex is meant for a certain way - the ultimate expression of love to be shared between a husband and a wife. An act that brings them together in their true, dedicated union to each other. That’s what I believe, and that’s what I’m going to absolutely follow. Because if I can’t remain faithful in the little things, how can I remain faithful in the big things? And I know I sin every single day - everyone does - but I think there’s something to be said to be constantly pursuing a righteous life, regardless. I love my Lord, so that’s what I’m trying my best to do.
And I can’t help but feel a little sad, when I come across the preview for Joe Jonas’s new music video “Just in Love” and see him half naked in a bed with a half naked girl. And sure, almost every song on the radio is so explicitly sexual, and it annoys me, and I don’t like it, but it doesn’t hit me like just seeing the implied sexuality of Joe Jonas’s video.
Why? Because he made a vow at one point in his life to abstain from sex until he was married. Rockin’ the purity ring and everything. And of course, I don’t know anything for certain about his sex life, but the implications of that video clip was pretty strong. One can infer things about his current convictions on the matter of sex based on it. And quite honestly, I won’t lie, it’s disappointing.
Chastity is like this rare treasure in today’s world. It’s a hard find for those over the age of 16 - definitely in this 21+ demographic I’m now in, and it’s always so encouraging when I see guys especially who follow God’s plan for sex by waiting for marriage. And it was so encouraging honestly to see the Jonas Brothers - in Hollywood and guys - openly rocking the purity rings, talking about the vow they made to God.
And it’s just sad to me, I guess, to see Joe seemingly turn away from that. It’s different in the case of a guy who never planned on waiting for marriage, I guess. That doesn’t hit as hard as someone who had such convictions then turned away from them.
I don’t mean to make any judgments on Joe’s lifestyle, which I know this totally comes off as. I know that anyone who doesn’t have the same ideas about sex as I do won’t get this at all - will find me to be ridiculous, uptight, and unrealistic. And I accept that. And I really don’t care. Because I’m going to stand for what I believe in, and I’m definitely going to blog about it, because if I can’t be open and honest here, then where else? And I think it’s just so important in this generation especially to have people who will stick with their faith and convictions, no matter what - even in the world is preaching something entirely different.
It’s so easy to slip, though. I definitely know that. I can imagine how much easier it is in the entertainment industry. If anything, it’s a reminder, a lesson embedded in this. That you absolutely have to focus completely on God through everything. It’s like driving - keeping your eyes firmly ahead on the road, because it only takes on little glance away to throw you completely off track or even completely wreck.
So you know, if Joe Jonas wants to perpetuate, implicate, whatever premarital sex in his music video, then that’s his business. It’s his decision. And I’m not gonna judge his relationship with God based on it, because I really have no idea and that’s not my call at all. I don’t have to agree with it, though. And I’m going to feel a little sad about it, thinking back to this apparent shift from purity vows to being straddled by a girl wearing no pants. It’s not Joe that’s the problem, after all, because it’s not just Joe. It just shows the general shift the world is experiencing away from God.
2 Timothy 3:1-4
But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficuly. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.
Paul pretty much says it there.
I mean, it’s not just sex. It’s so many other things. But that’s just what was on my heart after watching the music video clip. It’s just sad to me. I don’t care if it’s old fashioned. I don’t care if it’s prudish. I don’t care if the world disagrees with me. I really don’t. I just had to get my feelings out about this.
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